This was so beautiful to read. I'm so happy for all of you.
Unpopular opinion, but I think it was a harder transition to 1 kid, than it was to 2. But my oldest is quite feral, so it felt easy to add someone else to what was already chaos. Cause why not? In fact, I stand by this statement so hard that about 6 weeks into being a mom of two - a period of time I barely remember because my premie had to be fed every 90-120 minutes - I suggested that we try for a third.
I also had blood pressure issues, my blood pressure was too low which led to fainting spells and meant I "wasn't a candidate" for labor meds, like those they use in inductions. My options were going into labor naturally early, or to schedule a c-section towards the end before my dropping blood pressure became dangerous. In the end I went into labor naturally at 35 weeks, and since I couldn't have the labor drugs that speed things along, my second son was born 47 hours later. He was a little small, and qualified as a premie (there is a difference between early, and a premie). But he came home with us and ate well and now he's 5 and one of the tallest kids in his class.
We also live in 2 bedrooms and 1 bath by choice: we keep our small 3rd bedroom open for our many regular visitors. It's plenty of space. The boys love sharing a room, and I actually think it's made them closer as siblings. I'm sure your house is just the right size for your family. It's like the old conundrum of deciding if you can afford 1 kid or 2 kids or 3 kids. Once you have a child you are broke, because somehow they take up all of your money, whether you have a little or a lot of it. I think being broke with 2 kids is the perfect equation for me.
I know a lot of expecting parents have this fear that they won't love their new baby as much as the first one, or the new one will replace the other one. The truth is that you just produce more love to go around. I couldn't choose between my kids, it's like choosing if I prefer my right arm or my left arm. They drive me crazy in the same way but also in different ways because they are different people. And even when I don't like them very much, I still love them.
Sending you lots of love and best wishes for good blood pressure readings and an easy delivery. I was old enough to remember the day that Marlie was born, and it's one of my core memories. Rosalind is lucky that she will be old enough to remember the day her little sister arrives.
When I gave birth to our second in September 2020 we rewatched Breaking Bad and I know how dark that sounds but honestly it puts a lot into context. Only sleeping in forty minute intervals? Hey, could have meth problems!
Other suggestions: fast paced fun Tina Fey comedies (30 Rock, Kimmy Schmidt, Great News), complete trash (Selling Sunset, Selling the OC), Survivor bingewatch (if they can make it 40 days with no Cheetos, etc), glossy teen shows you’re embarrassed to admit to people you’re watching but go down real smooth (Ginny and Georgia for one).
I loved this essay.
Take lots of pictures, of the gross and horrible times too because they will make you laugh and cry later when it all blurs together. I’ve got some real doozies.
Rooting for you, J, R, and your mysteriously Chinese new arrival.
Baby problems > meth problems. Exactly. I've never heard of "Great News" (?!?!?) so THANK YOU?! Screen grabbing for later. And I got a disposable camera so my pics can be cutie pie even if they are gross disposable undie pics, etc. <3
this somehow made me laugh out loud &tear up with deep feeling. so happy for you, friend xx you've got this!!! also, the show "workin' moms" is probably objectively bad but was perfect for my early postpartum days, easily digestible and fairly funny and even mildly relatable
Pretty sure I watched all of that home with Rosalind???? Australian, right? "Bad" is not the issue for PP tv watching hahahah - probably preferable!!! xxxxx
Looking forward to this LOL. Any bout of energy (even if rage-fueled) will be quite welcome ... I am a slow moving barge... dragging my anchor through the dark ocean.... xxx
This was so beautiful to read. I'm so happy for all of you.
Unpopular opinion, but I think it was a harder transition to 1 kid, than it was to 2. But my oldest is quite feral, so it felt easy to add someone else to what was already chaos. Cause why not? In fact, I stand by this statement so hard that about 6 weeks into being a mom of two - a period of time I barely remember because my premie had to be fed every 90-120 minutes - I suggested that we try for a third.
I also had blood pressure issues, my blood pressure was too low which led to fainting spells and meant I "wasn't a candidate" for labor meds, like those they use in inductions. My options were going into labor naturally early, or to schedule a c-section towards the end before my dropping blood pressure became dangerous. In the end I went into labor naturally at 35 weeks, and since I couldn't have the labor drugs that speed things along, my second son was born 47 hours later. He was a little small, and qualified as a premie (there is a difference between early, and a premie). But he came home with us and ate well and now he's 5 and one of the tallest kids in his class.
We also live in 2 bedrooms and 1 bath by choice: we keep our small 3rd bedroom open for our many regular visitors. It's plenty of space. The boys love sharing a room, and I actually think it's made them closer as siblings. I'm sure your house is just the right size for your family. It's like the old conundrum of deciding if you can afford 1 kid or 2 kids or 3 kids. Once you have a child you are broke, because somehow they take up all of your money, whether you have a little or a lot of it. I think being broke with 2 kids is the perfect equation for me.
I know a lot of expecting parents have this fear that they won't love their new baby as much as the first one, or the new one will replace the other one. The truth is that you just produce more love to go around. I couldn't choose between my kids, it's like choosing if I prefer my right arm or my left arm. They drive me crazy in the same way but also in different ways because they are different people. And even when I don't like them very much, I still love them.
Sending you lots of love and best wishes for good blood pressure readings and an easy delivery. I was old enough to remember the day that Marlie was born, and it's one of my core memories. Rosalind is lucky that she will be old enough to remember the day her little sister arrives.
Thank you <3 <3 <3
When I gave birth to our second in September 2020 we rewatched Breaking Bad and I know how dark that sounds but honestly it puts a lot into context. Only sleeping in forty minute intervals? Hey, could have meth problems!
Other suggestions: fast paced fun Tina Fey comedies (30 Rock, Kimmy Schmidt, Great News), complete trash (Selling Sunset, Selling the OC), Survivor bingewatch (if they can make it 40 days with no Cheetos, etc), glossy teen shows you’re embarrassed to admit to people you’re watching but go down real smooth (Ginny and Georgia for one).
I loved this essay.
Take lots of pictures, of the gross and horrible times too because they will make you laugh and cry later when it all blurs together. I’ve got some real doozies.
Rooting for you, J, R, and your mysteriously Chinese new arrival.
Baby problems > meth problems. Exactly. I've never heard of "Great News" (?!?!?) so THANK YOU?! Screen grabbing for later. And I got a disposable camera so my pics can be cutie pie even if they are gross disposable undie pics, etc. <3
this somehow made me laugh out loud &tear up with deep feeling. so happy for you, friend xx you've got this!!! also, the show "workin' moms" is probably objectively bad but was perfect for my early postpartum days, easily digestible and fairly funny and even mildly relatable
Pretty sure I watched all of that home with Rosalind???? Australian, right? "Bad" is not the issue for PP tv watching hahahah - probably preferable!!! xxxxx
canadian i think? definitely not america because of the generous paid leave they get 🤣☠️
I love this all so much. And you. I agree with your church lady, whole heartedly. I can’t wait to hear about this very fitting baby name. :-)
Loved this so much, you always cut right to the quick. Rooting for you!
I loved this. Also WHICH POLITICAL CANDIDATE DID YOU DREAM ABOUT?
There's only one right now... right? Handsome NYC hero?!!? 😜
this was so beautiful. really excited for you
we also have two bedrooms and one bathroom and four people and we are making it work THUS FAR but I worry about the puberty years 😵💫😵💫
Great news though, you don’t need to throw any of your stuff away until you have a postpartum bout of rage and decide all the x has to go!
Looking forward to this LOL. Any bout of energy (even if rage-fueled) will be quite welcome ... I am a slow moving barge... dragging my anchor through the dark ocean.... xxx
Yay to the dresser!!!